how do you take care of yourself?
Chloe Brenner
Last week, my new therapist asked me “How do you cope?” Confused at first because I wasn’t sure what she was implying about what I needed to cope with, I started listing strategies I implement weekly to survive the fast moving machine that is Duke. I described to her that my most serene state was probably walking the Al Buehler Trail and listening to “The Daily” or “Hidden Brain” in an effort to escape the Duke bubble. Something about even passing local Durham residents on the trail walking their dogs or spending time with their partners gives me the peace and sense of normalcy I seek. But, I couldn’t seem to think of anything else I rely on regularly to take advantage of the rare moment I carve out for myself at Duke. Sometimes I even find myself worrying that even when I do find a pocket of free time, I am not using it productively enough. In fact, I often find myself sitting at my desk, neck contorted, staring at Instagram Reels and before I know it half an hour has gone by. What else could I do in half an hour? That is what I am seeking to answer, and I have asked experts more knowledgeable than myself.
I hope that you will turn to this list in moments of confusion, frustration, boredom, and emptiness—but also when you are feeling energized and ambitious. This is a list for all seasons of life, for both at Duke and beyond. While my network helped me put together this rich list of suggestions, I would love to hear from you too! Please feel free to contribute your own responses through this link. Self care does not have to be performative or pretty or persistent, it can be whatever you need it to be whenever you need it.
This Valentines Day, I know I will be happy to have it—and I hope you will too.
Artistic
Concert by yourself
Music + sing along + dance a little
Playing the cello/guitar
Crocheting
Painting/collaging
Lifestyle
Driving and listening to music that will allow her to cry and have emotional release
Buying myself a little treat, beverage (iced chai)
Putting on an outfit that makes you feel good
Reading
Going to a Duke game on a random weekday night
Mental health
Jotting down the things that were good from the day to come back to
Meditation
Sleeping in
Routine
Clean my room
Solitary morning + making bed
Daily WU breakfast with the 10:15 friend crowd
Social
Interact with neighbors
Call my mom
Venture to new restaurants with friends
Creating Intentional friend time
Thrifting with a friend you miss
Acts of service/gifts for friends
Board games
Exercise
Podcast walk (The Daily)
Journal
Playing tennis
Go climbing
Yoga and dinner date with a friend
Pilates
Hike
Skiing/Snowboarding